My most recent homework from my therapist was to say 3 nice things about myself daily and then finally to say 1 of those things out loud to a family member.
I know, seems easy right? Not easy for me.
In fact it has been the most difficult homework assignment ever! I have spent most of my life being who people thought I was.
“Whether true or false, what is said about men often has as much influence on their lives, and particularly on their destinies, as what they do.”
― Victor Hugo, Les Misérables
I know that these are great things to be, but I spent so much time being those things that I didn’t really know what was me and what was just my reputation.
So, homework assignment in hand; I had to really think about me and who I actually am.
What do I like? What do I do well? What makes me, me?
This all got me thinking about how I like being some of the things other people think about me. Like, responsible and hard-working. Those are two things that I think are deeply ingrained in my soul.
But just thinking about the word “perfect” makes me SHUDDER.
I am IMPERFECT, just one great big beautiful oops.
In fact, Beautiful Oops is also one of my favorite books. If you haven’t read it. Buy it. Read it. Read it to your children. Buy one for a friend.
This short children’s book wonderfully illustrates how making mistakes is natural and that so much learning and grace can come from mistakes.
Now I am not saying that we should strive to make mistakes; I am just saying we should be comfortable in making them as long as we learn from them and see them as opportunities for growth. But I digress, point is I like being imperfect. There is a great deal of beauty in the imperfect.
I also am a good mom. I am the kind of mom that let’s her little girl plant kisses in the garden and makes sure that it grows into something tangible…
I am the kind of mom that helps her kids make forts, masks, 6 foot long drawings, and make their very own salsa.
And always makes sure we have birthday cake pancakes for special occasions.
But I am also the mom that always explains why, that has never-ending hugs and kisses, is incredibly patient and apologizes for mistakes. I am the kind of mom that always puts her family first and loves unconditionally.
I also realized recently, that despite spending the past 10 years as a hermit and afraid of making connections, that I am a FRIEND JUNKIE.
When I decided to do this whole vulnerable and live out loud business I never thought that I would end up making such great friends or needing them around so much. And I have made GREAT friends.
This last little while, I have spent a lot of time with them, too and when I don’t see them I am lonely and I miss them. This is weird for me because I have spent a good deal of time convincing myself I didn’t need friends. Well, I totally need them and kind of adore them and wish I could see all of them everyday. I know I don’t have pictures of some of you (Debbie, Dorothy, Janet, Nadien, Alyssa, everyone…but you are loved none-the-less). I love my friends!
And my family – I adore my family. I am still head over heels in love with my husband and feel so blessed to have 4 great, funny, AMAZING children.
My dad, mom and two sisters are the best and I love them dearly.
And my niece is pretty amazing, too. I love her to pieces!
I have also come to realize that I am kind. I LOVE helping others and making other people happy. That is really important to me.
Today while I was running, I also realized that there is an athlete that lives inside of me. She is kind of awesome and I have to do a better job of helping her thrive.
Even though most of the time I am terribly afraid to do new things; I love to do and learn new things. I love to bake and am pretty good at it, too. I love the smell of fresh-cut grass, going on walks, and curling up with a good book.
Most of the time though I am just a silly girl doing her best to find her way to the best version of herself. I want to be the kind of adult I hope my kids become.
So here is to believing I can be the best version of myself and to completing my homework assignment…
I am imperfect.
I am kind.
I am a good mom.
I am a helpful person.
It’s a start.
Shine on my friends…
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Wow – You’re a really good writer too! Thank you for sharing and “living out loud”. There’s an element of bravery attached to what you are doing. I’m proud of you. Hugs!
Thanks, Ysolette. Brave and scared at the same time, but way better than living in a lonely bubble.
Thank you also for reading my blog.